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Tash Doherty's avatar

Love the Mary Oliver quote!

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

Me too! It's such a good reminder.

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Laurie Thompson's avatar

the sacred no!

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Jo Bozarth's avatar

I needed this message today. I’m going to be re-reading this post for sure. The “Allowed To Do” list… that is so accurate!

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

I'm so glad it felt helpful today! And yes, I am always intrigued by what makes the 'allowed to do list' and what doesn't :)

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Rosemary Davison's avatar

Another wonderful letter, Susannah. It’s a great reminder for me right now as I can get sidetracked by the editing work and administration side of my project and forget how whole I feel in the storybook world. I actually booked myself into a hotel for 3 nights this past weekend (my first time ever being in a hotel room alone!). It was an emergency measure at first to de-stress, but I ended up getting a month’s worth of work done. I’m going to make solo writing getaways a practice!

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

Oh I love this! I was just talking about hotel writing getaways with another writer friend- it sounds dreamy. And I love how you describe feeling 'whole' in storybook world- that's a wonderful way to put it! Thanks for buying me a cuppa (you are so generous!). I might take myself to this new to me, chocolate cafe and get a good Mexican hot-chocolate (and maybe some cake too ;)

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Rosemary Davison's avatar

Yay! That sounds so sunshiny and delicious — a chocolate cafe not far from the ocean — an outing involving cake ❤️

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lauren deborah | they/she 🌈🐆's avatar

I am so grateful to have re-visited this. When you asked us to take a breath and read Liz's words again I was already in tears. Sitting next to me, my LWS mug with that quote. On the wall next to me, the framed copy of my handwritten scrawl from the first time I heard it.

What am I willing to give up?

Guilt: of saying no or backing out when people want to hang out and I know I am already at my capacity (when I say yes to too many things then I get very tired then the writing comes last)

Sushi: I think maybe this is more general to "take-out" but sushi is king and if I cooked my own meals more, then I wouldn't need as much money and I wouldn't need to work as much

Checking my emails: anyone reading this have any hot tips to say no to checking your emails either on certain days or between certain hours? This would not only free up time, but also the sense of urgency and distraction. Maybe this is more just setting a rule for myself (and even an email auto response saying "Thanks for your email. I check my inbox on...?" for accountability).

Thank you for this important reminder. So much love and gratitude for you.

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Lucy Farrington-Smith's avatar

Thank you for this very thoughtful piece! Imagining how 300 words can turn into a whole manuscript is incredible. Small steps, every day 🙏🏻

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

Ahh, I am glad you liked it Lucy and yes it is amazing how small steps everyday can really help to move us towards our dreams.

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Ellen's avatar

Thank you Susannah for your affirming words, I’ve been writing nearly every day for the last 2 months, I will come back to this as a reminder to keep going x

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

That's so wonderful Ellen! Has writing everyday changed your relationship to your writing?

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Ellen's avatar

Definitely. I don’t have as much expectation when I sit down to write now. More trust

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

I love that! Thank you so much for sharing.

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lauren deborah | they/she 🌈🐆's avatar

“What are you willing to give up to have the life you keep pretending you want?” IS MY FAVVVVVVVV QUOTE. Loved this all so much, so many good reminders and questions. Thank you!

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Susannah Rigg's avatar

It's such a good one isn't it! It really doesn't pull any punches. And thanks for the love! :)

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